Not long after we met, she told me about a Halloween party she attended dressed as a prostitute. She said everyone was surprised because it was so out of character for her. After our relationship was over (at least the "dating" part), I realized that the opening lines of Soul Asylum's "Without A Trace" provided a concise summary:
I fell in love with a hookerI didn't quite fall in love with her, but I definitely took the relationship much more seriously than I should have. And in the end, I was pretty much a disgrace. It didn't help that she wanted to "still be friends." Nine times out of ten, guys don't really want to be friends -- we just figure if we stay in a woman's life long enough, she'll eventually come to her senses and want to sleep with us (and 99 times out of 100, it never happens). That faint glimmer of hope kept me in her life long enough to help her move downtown (I even drove the freaking U-Haul truck) as well as hear her complain about the string of insensitive jerks she did sleep with. My chance never came. Finally, more than two years after the day we met on the train, I told her, "I think our friendship has run its course." It was long overdue, and it was one of the most empowering days of my life.
She laughed in my face
So seriously I took her
I was a disgrace
"Without A Trace" was the fourth single from Soul Asylum's enormously successful Grave Dancer's Union, which includes their most famous song, "Runaway Train." Both of those songs also appear on Black Gold: The Best of Soul Asylum.